The Art Of Conscious Conversations

Conversations are integral to the act of living as a human being. The Art Of Conscious Conversations: Transforming How We Talk, Listen, and Interact, is a guide for understanding how our words and interactions can create either stress or contentment. In this book, I share the tools I’ve acquired and the practices I’ve learned and taught over the last two decades. They have helped me increase my awareness and comprehension of the fundamental truths about conversations. Better conversations mean a better life, and this book shows you how to have both.

About the Book

The Art Of Conscious Conversations takes a deep dive into the DNA of conversations, exploring the components and complexities of talking with others. With new insights, we can positively transform our interactions and relationships in our professional and personal lives.

Day in and day out, we sail in a sea of conversations. From our days in the crib, we appropriate the beliefs of our culture and our families. What we adopt generates unique, fingerprint-like patterns of thinking, feeling, listening, and talking. With these programming patterns, we embrace stories of what’s right and wrong, good and evil, fair and unfair. We form strong opinions about power, morality, family, friendship, religion, education, sex, politics, work, business, and money.

These conversational fingerprints underlie the emotions we feel and the stories we tell ourselves and others. Our natural patterns of talking and listening are so ingrained that they run on unconscious autopilot in the background of our minds. Our fingerprints serve us well when conversations with bosses, colleagues, kids, and friends go smoothly and when our emotions are positive, confident, and joyful. But when conversations take a turn toward frustration, anger, confusion, or fear, we often find ourselves at a loss for words, not knowing how to talk about the things that matter. How could he have said that to her? Why on earth is my boss so dense? I guess I won’t ever bring that subject up at the dinner table ever again!”

This book examines the how and the why of conversations, and it explores the way we can reframe our thoughts, emotions, reactions, and interactions.

The Art Of Conscious Conversations is organized around four universal types of conversations: storytelling, collaborating, creating, and committing. Each one presents tools and practices to increase our awareness and to improve the quality of our interactions at work and at home.

The Art Of Conscious Conversations will teach you to:

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Identify, understand, and deactivate disruptive emotional triggers

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Remove cobwebs of thought from the recesses of our minds

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Listen openly and empathetically to people with opposing perspectives

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Use facts and persuasive opinions to influence others

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Ask productive questions and encourage collaboration

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Open our minds to creative possibilities

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Make promises and build trusting relationships